I Swear…!

 Don’t Give Explanation When There’s No Obligation

An Insight of Life through my Experience…

By Dr. Sunil S Rana

Life is strange, and people are stranger. I have often noticed that friends, acquaintances, and even close relatives sometimes doubt your words as if you are standing in a courtroom. They want evidence, explanation, witnesses, and above all; they want you to swear!

And the irony is; we start defending ourselves like guilty convicts, as if we have committed some grave crime like robbing the Reserve Bank of India! The question is simple: Why give an explanation when there’s no obligation?

The “Kasam” Syndrome

When I was a student, I often heard phrases like:

• “Vidya Rani ki Kasam!”
• “Maa Kasam!”
• “Bhagwan Kasam!”

It became a regular chorus, as if every statement needed an oath to pass the “truth verification test.”

One friend of mine could not even complete a normal sentence without a swear:

• “Arrey kal main cricket ground gaya tha… Bhagwan kasam! Ball itni tez aayi, lagti toh main ICU mein hota!”
• “Bhai believe kar, tujhse bada dost duniya mein koi nahi… Teri kasam, main toh tujhe apne scooter se zyada pyar karta hoon.”

The scooter, by the way, had three dents, no silencer, and a kick that required half the neighborhood’s effort to start!

Swear on This, Swear on That

Some people have a PhD in swearing. They can swear upon anything; God, mother, children, neighbours, even the plastic bucket in their bathroom.

• “Arrey, main toh kasam se bol raha hoon, ekdum sach hai!”
• “Teri kasam, yaar, main toh bas halwai ki dukaan ke paas se hi gujra tha…”
• “Cycle ki kasam, petrol main ne nahi piya, mechanic ne piya hoga!”

At this point, you feel like saying, “Bhai, agar teri kasam se sachai milti, toh duniya ka har court band ho jata!”

No wonder Shakespeare had said: “The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” The more someone insists, the more doubtful their truth becomes.

Comic Parade of Swearers

We all have those characters in life who swear at the drop of a hat.

🔹 Case 1: The Latecomer

“Arrey boss, main late kaise hota? Traffic ki maa kasam, road pe aisi bheed thi ki gaadi chal hi nahi rahi thi!”

(Meanwhile, Google Maps clearly shows green roads everywhere.)

🔹 Case 2: The Foodie

“Yaar, samose maine nahi khaye… Teri kasam!”

(Still licking chutney from his moustache.)

🔹 Case 3: The Excuse-Maker

“Teacher ji, homework toh main ne likh hi liya tha… Electricity ki kasam, light chali gayi thi aur paper hawa mein udd gaya!”

Such moments remind me of the idiom: “A drowning man will clutch at a straw.” Liars clutch at “kasams” the same way!

Why Do We Owe an Explanation?

We often fall into the trap of justifying ourselves unnecessarily. Someone asks, “Why didn’t you call?” and we launch into a 10-minute film script:

“Network down tha, battery bhi dead thi, phone bhi silent pe tha, dog ne charger kaat diya, aur upar se bijli bhi chali gayi!”

By the end, the listener is still unconvinced, looking at you as if you’ve just finished narrating a Bollywood movie plot.

But the truth is simple: we don’t owe explanations for every small thing in life. As the saying goes, “A guilty conscience needs no accuser.”

The Lesson Wrapped in Humour

George Bernard Shaw once said, “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

When people don’t want to believe you, even a thousand explanations won’t work. And when they trust you, even silence speaks volumes.

So, the next time someone demands, “Kasam kha ke bol!”, just smile and reply:

👉 “Bhai, mera sach kisi kasam ka mohtaaj nahi hai.”

Conclusion

Life becomes peaceful when you stop explaining yourself to everyone. Explanation is not proof of innocence, and silence is not proof of guilt.

Swearing is not a certificate of truth, and over-explaining is not a medal of honesty. In fact, both only weaken the case. Be clear, be firm, and most importantly- don’t give explanation when there’s no obligation.

Because as they say:

 “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

And to those who still keep swearing for every small thing, I can only say:

 “Kasam se, tumhari kasamon ka stock exchange girta hi jaa raha hai!”